Why You Need to be Your Own Best Friend & How To Do So
As I’m currently writing this, I’m sitting with head in a sink at my hair salon. Every time I come to get my hair down, It is my time to actually be able to read my book and put myself in deep thought and reflection. I unfortunately never am able to take the time to read like I would like to, but on this day, every 8 weeks, I get to drink red wine and read my book and maybe take a nap when my Head is in the sink 🙈
Moving on, the book I’m currently reading is Girl Boss by Cara Alwill Leyba. I could go on and on about how great this book is, but I don’t want to ruin It for you. So, you’ll just have to pick up your copy right here. OR head on over to my Instagram and enter to win your very own copy. Now, I will share a few things I do love about this book. It really helps you to think about your inner #girlboss and It is basically a work book along with a guide. There are even incredible stories from different empowering women that I, personally, would love to meet.
This week, the main point that I took away was that you need to be your own best friend. To me, this means that you need to advocate for yourself and be your biggest fan. You need to love yourself no matter what. If you can’t support yourself and you don’t think you can take on the world, than why should anyone else want to take part. You need to find a way to be comfortable alone and in your own skin. Take yourself on dates. Cara said “There are tons of people who will drag you down and point out your flaws, do not be one of them”. These chapter really speaks to me because I think being your own best friend is the only way to get to know yourself and be your best self.
Ways to be your own best friend….
Get to know yourself // This one may sounds stupid, like how do I not know myself, blah blah blah. But, the thing is, so many people actually don’t know themselves. Think about all the weird facts you know about your best friend, their favorite drink, weird facts about their family, odd thoughts that they would only tell you, etc. How much do you know yourself and your inner thoughts. Do you know yourself enough to be comfortable. Which leads to…
Be comfortable with yourself // You should be able to sit alone for a few hours and be completely form. You don’t need people around you all the time to be thriving. If you are comfortable with yourself, you will be fine hanging out by yourself and maybe even crave some time alone. “Figure out who you are separate from your family, and the man or woman you’re in a relationship with. Find who you are in this world and what you need to feel good alone. I think that’s the most important thing in life. Find a sense of self because with that, you can do anything else.” – Angela Jolie.
Date yourself // This one is kind of hard for me as well. Going out and doing things by yourself. I find this almost as the third step. Going on a date with yourself is kind of hard without being comfortable with yourself. Go treat yourself to a good night, this could be going out to dinner by yourself or going to go get coffee and enjoy a nice view. Take time to focus on yourself and have good time alone.
Stop being such a B**ch to yourself // “When a women becomes her own best friend, life is easier” – Diane von Furstenberg. Part of getting to know yourself is knowing your strengths and weaknesses. Don’t knock yourself down over your weaknesses, or when your strengths are not their best that day. Don’t be your worst enemy, that will not get you anywhere. When you can stop being a b**ch to yourself, you will open up new windows for yourself. Sometimes you can mess up, we all mess up, but usually we’re the only ones that can see it. You have to take two steps back and realize when you thought you messed up big time, you actually did nothing wrong and nobody even noticed what you did.
What are your thoughts on being your your own best friend? How do you treat yourself like a best friend?